Sure, you’re a nice guy. Most guys are. Is that enough?
Being nice may make you feel like you’re a man worth knowing and that you deserve women’s attention. But do you really believe that women pay the most attention to what you think you deserve? There are 6 secrets to be the nice guy women want and you need to understand them.
Simply put, being nice is not enough. You also need to be intriguing. Unfortunately, “nice guy” equates to wimp or dweeb in too many minds.
But don’t get us wrong, you don’t have to be a jerk to attract women!
As a matter of fact, women don’t like jerks or aggressive men. They are attracted by challenging, interesting guys. That’s all. You can be interesting, challenging and still be nice. Be yourself, but keep in mind that there are 6 secrets to be the nice guy women want.
1. Be a Challenge
Women LOVE a challenging man. The easiest way to let a woman know you are worth pursuing is to convey your success with women. Be a nice guy, but one that is desirable.
2. Give a Compliment
The MOST EFFECTIVE way to spark her attraction is to give her a COMPLIMENT on her looks. Be sure to highlight something about her that makes her different and special. When you give attention, you’ll get it in return!
3. Be Confident
Not being aggressive doesn’t mean that you have to wait for madam perfection to drop into your lap (which you as a “nice guy” deserve by definition, of course). You have to take some initiative. BE SELF-CONFIDENT (but not cocky) and show some honest interest in something about a woman.
4. Be Romantic
The best selling genre of books in the world is romance novels… because women LOVE romance. So don’t talk about sports, nice guy! If you are not the type of man that reads poetry or is able to talk about moon or about the smell of burned tree leafs, don’t do it. You’ll look unnatural. But taking your date in a romantic place, offering her a nice flower, enjoying some good music or even touching her hand in a delicate way is very romantic. A nice guy who can be romantic is a double winner.
5. Actively Listen
Hey nice guy, don’t only talk about yourself. Do want her to listen to you? Then, first listen carefully to her when she needs to be heard. The most effective way to be interesting is asking questions and listening. Give it a try and you’ll see what we are talking about.
Keep in mind that often (not always, but very often) when a woman tells you about a problem she’s having, she’s not looking to you for the solution. What? That doesn’t make sense? What she’s often looking for is comfort and reassurance and knowing that YOU’RE THERE.
6. Confirm Mutual Interest
One of the most important things in dating is to approach women that are interested in dating and women that seem to be interested in you. Don’t try to sell undies to someone that is looking for peanuts and don’t waste your time with women that are still affected by their ex long term relationships. You don’t want to be just a shoulder to cry on.
You only live once, so live your life well!