It is important that when you date, you are dating with confidence. But for many, dating can be a nerve-wracking experience. After all, you could be meeting your future spouse. Let us show you how dating with confidence can land the spouse of your desires.
The whole point of dating (usually) is to get to know someone on an intimate level. For whatever reason, and there are many, most people want to make a good first impression. At the very least, most people want to avoid rejection. Dating is a prime opportunity for this by its very nature. Whether you’re looking for a fun night out or a long-term relationship, rejection can occur either way. Honestly, this can be difficult to deal with. Self-doubt can come in many forms, from questioning one’s intelligence to one’s looks. Dating puts it all out there and this vulnerability can be unsettling.
How can you increase your confidence when it comes to dating? Let’s discuss how dating with confidence can change your life!
First Things First
A date is just a date. It is not the rest of your life. Yes, you may meet your future spouse, but this thought is far beyond the scope of the date. At this point, only focus on the date. Putting extra pressure on the date makes it harder for both of you. The other person is likely to sense your “desperation” and you may end up putting too much pressure on yourself. Try focusing on the date itself instead of where it may or may not lead. Enjoy the time together. Try to avoid blaming yourself if things aren’t going well. The last thing you need to do is convince yourself that you’re not worth dating and that you’ll be single for the rest of your life.
Yes, you’ve heard it many times before and there’s a reason for it. If you do hit it off with the other person, it’s best if this happens when you’re being true to yourself. If you’re “faking” it, you’re then faced with either coming forward or continuing the facade. Not only does this take a lot of effort, but it’s also dishonest. Whatever faults you have, try not to hide them too much. This doesn’t mean that you put them all out on the table on the first date. It means that you don’t go to extreme measures trying to hide them or pretend to be someone you’re not.
Get Out of Your Head
To help deal with your insecurities about yourself, try focusing on the other person. Show a genuine interest in what he or she has to say. Be honest and courteous in your responses. Let the other person have the spotlight. Not only does this keep you from magnifying your insecurities, but it also helps accomplish what dates are meant to do. You’ll be getting to really know someone better. Ask questions, listen to the answers and ask more. Talk about common interests when you find them. Above all, try to avoid talking about yourself the whole time or worrying too much about how you look. Moreover, don’t worry about what you’re saying and what type of impression you’re making while on the date.
Try Something Different
If the idea of sitting through a quiet dinner with someone you barely know makes you break out into a sweat, consider engaging dating activities. Take a tour through a garden, go rollerblading or do some other activity that keeps you moving. If you have something to do, you can focus less on feeling awkward and more on the conversation. It lightens the atmosphere and can make you both feel more comfortable and confident.