I’m sure by now you’ve heard of love languages. The idea comes from a New York Times best seller by Gary Chapman called The 5 Love Languages. Over the last few years, self reflection has become a source of mass interest. Grouped in with self care, reflection is a way people have learned to solve their internal problems and move forward from past trauma and hurt. Love languages are a foundation for understanding yourself and making yourself better in relationships. Here is why using love languages for better relationships is so helpful.
Here are the 5 love languages: Physical touch, quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation, and receiving gifts. People might have more than one primary love language and it’s a great tool to create healthy relationships.
It Helps to Point Out Miscommunication
Learning your love language can be used to help identify problems in a relationship. Have you ever been in an argument with your partner were you realize you were both trying to do the same thing, but just missed each other in execution? That’s where love languages come in. There’s a good chance you and your partner have different love languages and it can be difficult to translate that. As the name states, it’s a language that you must learn.
They Help You Grow
Learning to tend to another love language doesn’t just help the other person, it also helps you. Having a grasp on how to understand someone is a skill, it helps grow empathy. When you understand that not everyone want to just hear “I love you”, and that they may need something different to feel love, you’ll be more aware.
It Gives Your Grace for Your Partner
As humans, we are naturally self centered. We all mess up and we will all make mistakes again. When you’re in a relationship with someone who’s natural tendency is not to show love in the same way you do, the process can be frustrating! It will take time to learn each other and understand the other person’s love language. As we said before, it’s easy to have good intentions and just miss the target. When you understand this, it’s easier to have compassion for your partner when they don’t always show love the way you need. This isn’t to say that people should forgive everything, but when it comes to miscommunication, you may be able to see where your partner is coming from.
It Helps to Change Your Relationship for the Better
The best relationships are based off trust and communication. Though, none of those will be possible if you don’t listen AND comprehend what your partner tells you. Love languages can make your relationship better simply by learning to communicate and understand each other. A relationship with no trust is nothing, and a relationship with unproductive communication will be a struggling relationship as well. When partners are able to learn each others love languages, it gives a different insight on the other person. It helps to build empathy and trust.