So you’ve made it past the first two dates and you seem to really like her. The third date seems a little more important. Your first date was probably pretty casual, maybe coffee? The second date was a little more formal, maybe drinks and a casual dinner? So what do you do for your third date? The third date is arguably one of the most important in the dating stage. She’s still seeing you, so clearly she has an interest. We’ll help you understand how to keep her interested in you. Here are our best third date tips.
Actively Listen
You’ve already had two dates and probably have spent a little bit of time texting at this point. Make it known that you listen to her. During your conversation, bring up things that you’ve talked about before. It’s not necessary to be mushy, that could come off as too forward, the most important thing is to show her that you are thoughtful.
As a date idea, you can take her to do something that she’s mentioned she likes. Or maybe something that she’s never tried and wants to try. It doesn’t need to be extravagant, maybe that new restaurant or art exhibit.
Be Honest About Your Intentions
What do you want from this? Are you looking for a real relationship? Something casual? At the third date, you’ve probably gotten to know her enough where you can at least gauge your interest. Be honest and let her know your real intentions. There’s no point of leading someone on when you don’t have to. The third date and forward are often when people can really decide if they can at least see someone as a possible relationship. So just be honest so you don’t have to hurt any feelings down the line.
Ask What She’s Looking For
At this point, you’ve taken her out a couple of times and you want to know where it’s going. You’re not the only person in this, ask her for her opinion too. At this point you don’t have too much invested in this relationship and this is a great place to call it quits if that’s where it’s leading. If she doesn’t seem as into as you are, let bygones be bygones.
Be Yourself
You’re still really getting to know each other at this point. The first and second date you want to put on your absolute best self. On the third date, the conversation tends to be a little deeper. You can talk about childhood and flaws, to see if you really match. Don’t be afraid to be yourself, she will either like you or not. Show you silly and quirky side and if she doesn’t like it, there are millions of single women who could be your perfect match.
Kiss Her
We live in the 21st century, and there’s really no timeline for having your first kiss. If it’s on the first date, great! If you haven’t done it yet, the third date can be a great time to do it. Not only will it enhance your emotional chemistry, but you’re physical chemistry as well. Because the third date generally signifies if things are going to go further, it’s a great way to see if the sparks fly!
Just make sure she is giving you the right vibes, and if she says no, the answer is simply no. If she doesn’t want to kiss you, don’t feel bad. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you, it just may mean she’s not ready yet.
